To find your voice, you have to USE your voice

Photos from a recent trip to Joshua Tree   



I’m not sure what I want this space to be, but I know I won’t figure that out by ignoring it. I won’t find my “voice” by contemplating, I’ll only find it by using it.


So, here’s to being a little tone deaf, but singing anyways!  


To find a voice, you have to USE your voice

Photos from a recent trip to Joshua Tree   



I’m not sure what I want this space to be, but I know I won’t figure that out by ignoring it. I won’t find my “voice” by contemplating, I’ll only find it by using it.


So, here’s to being a little tone deaf, but singing anyways!  


Prompt: What is the one skill you see in other bloggers that you wish you had?


Some people- not just bloggers- have this amazing talent of turning any mundane thing into a story. Not just a story, a Story.

I don’t know how they do it! It’s amazing! I find myself retelling the most fantastic events- things that happen that are basically stories (with the whole arc thing, ect) that don’t even need editing- in the most flat, bland, boring way….

Like this: Once, we had a dog, and it ate a rock, and died.

THIS IS A TRUE STORY PEOPLE! A truly excellent story that requires little to no embellishment or exaggeration. It has drama, tragedy, comedy… and yet, I have never successfully delivered it. In fact, my repeatedly poor delivery has become somewhat of a “tag” among my friends group. Whenever someone tells a story that falls flat, another will inevitably chime in- “and then I ate a rock and died.”

So, all you talented tale-tellers, tell me your secrets!


2014-07-21 12.01.53     The weekly photo challenge at the Daily Prompt this week is “minimalism.” Jon and I went to the Cook Islands for our honeymoon… The Cook Islands are a 9 hour direct flight from LAX, and eons away from “real life.” Because of the remoteness of the islands, internet (wireless and *gasp* dial-up), phones and television were essentially nonexistent. It. was. heaven. It took some getting used to though… having a gorgeous meal without the ability to act on the impulse to instagram it, or surviving a rainy afternoon without the flickering distraction of blogs and forums and pinterest. We quickly discovered that distraction-free living suits us though. All I’ll ever need- two palm trees, a big hammock, the ocean, and my hammocking partner. Bliss. We get to go on another honeymoon on our anniversary, right?”

The purple cow

What is your favorite holiday memory?

My family has always done holidays right– building anticipation in the weeks beforehand by hand crafting decorations, planning elaborate menus and practicing special recipes. Christmas, with its built-in month of anticipatory madness (aka “advent”), has always been my favorite holiday. By December 1st, we’ve already started practicing Christmas carols on cello and piano in November, “auditioning” recipes for the annual Feast of the Seven Fishes, and stockpiling our DIY cabinet for hand-embellished ornaments and cards.

One of my absolute favorite Christmas memories happened probably over twenty years ago, but I can conjure up snapshots and soundbites like this was yesterday.

I was somewhere between 5-7, making my little sister between 2-4. We were finally an age where we could both really appreciate the magnitude of giving presents and keeping secrets. THIS Christmas was more than a rush of sugar and pine and wrappings and ribbon, because this Christmas, WE were giving Dad a present. And this was not just any present, this was a BIKE. So. Epic.


This is not THE bike, but it’s still pretty cool. I’d be happy with it.

Once we got the new bike home, there was the issue of hiding a full, adult bike from my father. There weren’t many places in the house or garage that were guaranteed black-holes of attention, but my long and cluttered closet hid the bike perfectly. Mom, my sister and I had very serious discussions about secrets, and presents, and what it means to keep presents a secret, and so on. Naturally, having a secret bike in my closet made my sister and I absurd and giddy (our normal state, but it was compounded by the deliciousness of our secret).

One afternoon, I decided that it would be brilliant to tell Dad that we bought a SECRET present for him, and it was in my closet!! (to get him extra extra psyched for Christmas morning!). Obviously, this piqued his interest. Not wanting to be left out of the exchange, my sister chimed in, “and it’s NOT a bike!”

Silence. I may have been new to this secret thing, but I had a pretty good idea that we had just spilled the beans.

My Dad replied, “Well, if it was not a bike, then what is it?”

AHA, I knew the answer to this one- say anything but the word BIKE! So naturally I replied, “A cow.”


This is the fluffiest little cow, I don’t even know what to do with myself

My sister embellished, “A purple cow.” (Purple was the color of the bike, so it seemed the most obvious color for the cow)

My Dad looked mildly surprised, which I interpreted as surprise at the fact that I had been successful at hiding genetically-modified livestock in my closet. In order to keep up our elaborate ruse, we dashed off to go “feed the cow,” an activity we started doing several times a day until Christmas eve in an effort to convince Dad that he would actually discover a purple cow in our living room on Christmas morning.

I have no idea what else happened during that Christmas, but for the first time in my life, I fell in love with gift-giving.  My sister and I, in the mutual sharing of a secret that one of our parents didn’t know, developed a nearly telepathic bond that we still have today. (We’re awesome and creepy like that) We were so incredibly excited to see Dad’s face on Christmas morning… This may be a bold statement, but I think we discovered the meaning of Christmas that year.


A tree covered in Swarovski… that’s the true meaning of Christmas, right?

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